Learning to do 'nothing' and just 'be'

It has been one of those weeks! I have realised that patience is not one of my strong points, and I hate waiting for things or events. For example, there have been hiccoughs and delays with my beautiful new website going live (very frustrating) and finally my new CDs arrived yesterday after what seem like forever! However, having cried, jumped up and down in frustration, I have finally come to the conclusion that this has not made any difference to the outcome, but it has affected I the way I experience  the events in my life. Once I changed my attitude to these holdups, which I could not change, and allowed myself to just "be" I felt much calmer. 

It brought to mind some words of wisdom from Marie Mongan founder of HypnoBirthing that women realise that they have the ability to relax through the first stage of labour, but when it come to the baby's descent and birthing, that is a different ball game. Suddenly they want to know what to do to give birth. Marie Mongans answer is simply 'nothing'. She suggests that using HypnoBirthing 'nothing' works very well. Its natures perfect design from the very outset of our conception.

A pregnant woman does nothing following conception, and during the next 40 weeks a baby develops and grows within her uterus. Life progresses with more changes and development within her mind and body which she trusts implicitly until she enters the medical model in labour. Don't get me wrong, medical intervention at the appropriate time saves lives. However, women are not encouraged to listen to their own body and instincts. Women instinctively turn their birthing over to their bodies and 'zone out' so that their mind with all its fears and preconceived ideas are released. In reality, the only important thing that you need to do is 'nothing' and to just 'be'. Marie Mongan suggests that "we need to stop fixing birth and allow the rhythm and flow of birthing. What women need to master is to be 'out of their minds' so that calm birthing becomes normal and not something extraordinary".

'Your vision becomes clear when you look inside your heart. Who looks outside dreams. Who looks inside awakens' 

Carl Yung

First blog from Mama2b

Welcome!

I am thrilled to be able to share my news, views and useful information/articles that I have either written or found from my research into fertility, pregnancy, natural childbirth and early parenting. I hope you will find this blog helpful and informative, and look forward to hearing your feedback.

I recently attended the Scottish Baby show in Glasgow with my 'wee' stand Mama2b and had a great few days speaking to prospective parents, finding out about their experiences past and present. What struck me the most was that so many people had experienced trauma during their first labour and birth, with their birthing experience so far removed from what they had imagined and hoped for themselves, their partner and their baby. Many felt scared and and were not looking forward to their next labour and birth. This has a big impact on their feelings and enjoyment of this current pregnancy. Most of them stated that this time round they wanted to have a different experience. They desired a more gentle and calm experience of childbirth, using natural techniques such as breathing, visualizations, and to remain more aware and in control of their choices during pregnancy, labour and birthing.

I was more than delighted to explain about HypnoBirthing which I have been practicing since early 2004  as a midwife/hypnotherapist  and as a HypnoBirthing practitioner for the last two years with the Mongan method. I will attach an article that I have written about hypnobirthing with my next blog, for those of you who are interested and would be delighted to answer any questions you may have about upcoming courses available throughout the UK.

Finally, just to let you know that I have a stand at the Bumps, Babies and Beyond pregnancy and baby fair at Tree Tops Hilton in Aberdeen on 22nd May from 10 am until 4 pm. Do come over and say 'hello' and have a look at the exclusive range of organic aromatherapy products for pregnancy, birth and beyond blended for their therapeutic properties. Take some time out and listen to my new extended 3 track hypnobirthing CD including morning sickness, baby bonding and relaxation, and preparation for labour and birthing.

Thank you for taking the time to read my blog.

Wishing you all health and happiness.

Amanda